|Counseling for adults can involve short or long term therapy, depending on the
goals and needs of the client. Short term therapy is solution oriented and works
on solving immediate needs. It involves the counselor taking a direct, active
role in focusing on a single key area of concern in the client's functioning.
Long term therapy is focused on integrating various facets of personality into a
unified whole. There are many useful approaches both traditional and alternative
that serve to connect us to the essential nature of ourselves. Mind/body
approaches are very helpful in this regard as we learn to identify and relate to
the various parts of ourselves. This is like healing the inner selves or
re-parenting our inner children.
Transition is a time when we seek meaning. For many people transitions can
be a time of connecting to our essential self, to the driving force within
us, that we were never taught to know how to use and access. There are
useful tools and approaches to finding this essential nature and embracing
our life with it. But we must look at our essential skills, and learn the
gifts within the wounds of the heart. For some, these are stepping stones
to a fuller life, while for others it is a life's journey in progress and
a yearning for deep inner connection. Whatever the motivation, the process
becomes how we build the roads for the journey that is already there and
interpret the sign posts that are along the way.
Please see more on
Transition Tools here. on the
Feeling Whole website.
Healing the inner self is a personal journey which can and does
often heal the relationship. We can also use relationship to heal the inner
Couples can have individual issues in a relationship that affect the
functioning of the relationship and there can be issues that are merged into
what we call "a field" or area of non-verbal communication that
influences the relationship unconsciously. These issues are also related to the
hidden parts of ourselves. We can get to know these parts through the context of
healing with an intimate other. In intimacy, we unfold ourselves and gradually
reveal our true selves to our partner which heals relationships. Couples
counseling is about learning skills for relating, loving, and communicating so
growth can happen with regard to healing emotional, spiritual, and psychological
issues and bringing healing to the context of relationship.